I wrote a piece for Beyond The Binary on how not to come out as trans.
Coming out as trans/NB was the dumbest thing Iâ€™ve ever done. Not because I did it, but because I did it in a spectacularly stupid way. I didnâ€™t so much come out of the closet as roar out of it on a glitter-powered rocket cycle, waving the Trans Pride flag and putting all of eBay on credit cards I already couldnâ€™t keep up with. I binned my boring boring boy clothes, wore skirts to the supermarket, talked about being trans on national radio to 400,000 people and spent months getting dirty looks from old women in ASDA who donâ€™t think bolero tops go well with manly beards.
With the benefit of hindsight, that wasnâ€™t the best way to do it.